Have we forgotten how to enjoy dating?


By Andre Adefope 

‘I’ve never laughed so hard. I’m not saying everything has been easy, but it’s going so well’. This is what a friend said to me recently about his new relationship. They’ve been dating for about six months now, and he seemed almost embarrassed by the fact he was enjoying himself.

It made me think, how often do we remember to celebrate the enjoyment that comes from a good healthy dating relationship? Do we remember that dating is meant to be fun? When we date, and start forming a romantic relationship with one person and increase our commitment to them, we should do it with a smile on our face. This may sound strange, but God actually wants you to enjoy good relationships……..

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Compatibility: Is it about me finding, or us building?

By Andre Adefope 

When I was dating, I remember thinking that if I was like an alpha male, I would get a girlfriend. I had to be the life and soul of the party, be really funny, then it would work out. Then after attracting these many women (I cringe looking back now), I would find someone.

The problem is, I’m not an alpha male…

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Book Review: Online Dating, Top Tips for Success


By Andre Adefope

As someone who writes, teaches and delivers presentations around singleness and dating, I’m always inevitably asked about online dating. For example: “Is it safe?” “What websites are recommended?” “Can christians use it?” “How is it different from other types of dating?” These questions are all good questions, and I feel confident and happy to discuss them.

However, sometimes people ask about how you practically do online dating. Or how you set up a good profile. And this becomes a bit more tricky.

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By Andre Adefope

So Easter is finally here! I’m not sure about you but it’s often a strange weekend for me. The extra time at the weekend ends up as a combination of resting and catching up with friends.  Alongside this, I also want to take time to remember all that God has done for us by reflecting on treating Jesus’ suffering with reverence and respect, and then celebrating and rejoicing in the resurrection. All this, while convincing myself that eating too much chocolate during easter is justified, somehow.

It’s fair to say that I wake up on Tuesday feeling like I’ve done nothing well…….

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